So I am realizing that you learn alot from people you least expect. They open your eyes to see different aspects of things that even your closest friend couldn't bring out of you.

*** I was talking to this guy today (who in a million years I would have never thought to open up to) and he was breaking down certain situations to me. I currently got myself caught up in a situation that oozes drama...it has allowed certain things to be assumed about me that are not true. Now this guy I was talking to is not exactly the "discussion" type guy; however, he shocked me with his words. He broke down the situation to me in a way that I have never examined it before. And he basically told me that i was dumb (which I already knew). One of the most significant things that he did explain to me was the relationship between a girlfriend,boyfriend, and the opposite sex friend of either party. For example: a guy is dating a girl but has a close friendship with another girl who he tells all his business to. Now as he was explaining this it made me kind of confused but it came to in the end.

This was his explanation to me:let's say that a guy and a girl are dating and the girl has a guy friend who she is really close to-probably tells him all- it is wrong to tell that friend all that is going on within her relationship with her man (and vice versa). Now at first I didn't get it but he goes in to say that if communication is the key to every healthy relationship how can that girl be comfortable going to another guy (even though that is her friend) about issues she has with her man. The friend now holds sacred information regarding you and yours that they should not know. Let's say the girls boyfriend and her close guy friend are aware of each other and they may speak (in passing nothing serious) on occasions- even though they guy friend would never say anything to the boyfriend, he holds information about him that should not have revealed... And he probably knows certain things about the relationship and the girls feelings that even the boyfriend doesn't know. Crazy I never saw it like this.

If you think about this it holds so much truth and significance in it because ultimately as a person in a relationship I would want, trust, and hope that whatever my boyfriend is feeling,he can come to me and say it. When situations such as these occur it opens doors to dishonesty and may possibly pave a way for the other person to slip in because they know so much. I always say that some things are better left unsaid,but if you are going to share them share them with the person(s) that are meant to hear them because it builds trust and a better foundation to your relationship

Like I said I learned a lot from this guys conversation today and it allowed me to see a different perspective of things I am dealing with, and I encourage people to take the time to open up to people even though you may think they have nothing to offer- because those very people may truly be the exact same people that change your life.