Females Advocate Derogatory Treatment
Just this past Saturday I
went to the club with my cousins; now I am not the one to front, I am all for a good time (not too keen on the whole club idea but I will every
once in a while). That night must have been “come with your craziness” night bc
when I tell you it was CRAZY!!! Our initial entrance was not that bad bc when
we first got there it was pretty chill; all the people in there where chilling,
drinking, and just vibing to the music so it seemed as if the night was going
to be pretty cool. All of a sudden craziness showed up. Girls were coming in
there with no clothes on…like nothing was left to the imagination. It was like
they took the shortest thing they could find in their house and threw some
heels on. On top of
that, girls were taking off their clothes (and I mean stripping down as if it
were a strip club), guys were dry humping them (hardcore) on the dance floor
and on top of the bars, females were throwing up on themselves and falling all
over the floor, and then the kicker…females would be dancing with a guy and
another guy would come buy dump their drink on her (and I mean all over her)
and then attempt to lick it off…SMH it was horrible!!! The worst part was that EVERYONE
in that club was 21 or older. The music wasn’t helping either bc the songs they
were playing weren’t even regular songs that we hear on the radio (I mean
initially yes but somewhere along the way the DJ must have revamped the
playlist), they were playing songs that were downright disrespectful to every
woman that even thought about dancing to them. They were saying things like
(excuse me language) “P(word) so pink,” “bend it over let me see you open it up,”
or “Raise your hand if you’re a bad b(word) and let me hear you scream,”…Now I know
that I am not completely exempt from ever having listened to music that degrades a
woman so intensely, but put the music with the imagine of girls doing exactly
what the songs tells them to do and guarantee you will rethink it the next time
you go to sing that song. It got so bad in there that my cousins and I couldn’t
even stay bc it was no longer fun, it was like one big dirty orgy…
After we left I started
thinking about how a lot of times woman don’t realize that men have lost
respect for us bc we no longer have respect for ourselves. We allow them to say
things to us and do things to us and then it becomes a natural habit then all
of a sudden we want to change it up and be like “do talk to me like that,” or “don’t
call me the b(word),” but we are they same females in the club raising our hand bc
the song just told us to “raisie our hand if we are a bad b(word).” So we are
saying it that its okay for the song to say it to us but not okay for the males
to say it to us…SMH…not how it works. I mean am not trying to get all technical
bc this is NOT the first time this issue has been discussed and confronted and
ppl will get it in due time; however, for me having experienced that it makes
me look at all of that stuff completely different. I mean I was in complete AWE
to see the way those females were acting and carrying on. I can reassure you
that at the end of the night unless they were going home to screw each other…none
of those girl left that club with anything except, wet weave (which isn’t cute
unless its like Malaysian or something extremely expensive), ruined outfits,
and possibly some whiplash from having been banged out so intensely. Again, I
am NOT here to judge I am just simply saying that for me this experience has
given me a whole new outlook on this idea.