So I read this book the other day titled Yes Means Yes…the book basically talks about how women should learn how to take control of their own sexuality. Its covers how there is no such thing as being a hoe and that sex is simply an expression of the person. Now the book was very interesting but I did not agree with everything that was said. Like how it talked about the only way you can consider sex with another person is to actually have sex with them to if you actually enjoyed it… NO!!! If that's case you would always be sleeping with people.When reading the book it made me look at my sexuality slightly different. I consider myself to be VERy in tune with my sexuality, but what I realize a lot is that we as females are so scared to express what we want to our male partners in fear of getting embarrassed. In our heads sex is only something that should be done in secret(which is in fact a true statement) and we are just hoping and praying to find the right partner to please us dearly. I see it differently… in my mind the same way a guy can teach a woman what he likes and dislikes, so can a female. We[as females] spend so much time worrying about how to please them that we forget that without us there is no sex…SO WHY NOT IT ENJOY IT JUST AS MUCH A S HE IS??!!! Now females start off restricting themselves to not wanting to have sex with males bc they are not boyfriends [which is understandable] but then after a while you get irritated with them, annoyed, and realize that you are only teasing yourself. So ultimately you give in…NOW please understand that I am not saying that it is okay to screw anything walking just because you want to however [and if you are doing it correctly you will wait until marriage],however those you are, do not limit yourself to good sex because you are afraid of speaking up to your partner. The key to having good sex is being able to comfortably communicate to your partner your specific wants and needs. If you like it tell them you want more, and if you do not tell them so. I don’t know I just get tired of women walking around here hoping and wishing for some man to do them right when all they have to do is open up their mouths to get it right… I mean I know this may be kind of explicit for my blog but it is something that has been on my mind for a while, and I would like to see an end to it…soo idk hopefully this has reached the right woman and we will learn to speak up for ourselves…Read the book and you will clearly understand…until next time….